Does Navigating For Others Truly Help Them Out?

John C. Maxwell – Navigating For Others

In John Maxwell’s book, “Becoming a Person of Influence“, he speaks of Navigating for others.  He explains examples of how to do this. Actually, he gives an inspiring example of thinking of others (and not focusing so much on oneself).

In John Maxwell’s example, he helps relieve the tension of people who are waiting to board a flight. They’ve been delayed by the flight crew, and are still sitting in the airport in a “hold” mode.  John comes along & cheers everyone up. He does so simply by introducing himself enthusiastically and buying a round of cokes for everyone.

He doesn’t stop there, though.  He continues to be inspirational, even after on board.

Tip:   Be willing to delve deep into the psyches of others

Impact Other People Positively: Be an Empath

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Have you ever put some time into analyzing what you can do to inspire, and help others when they’re in a challenging, or frustrating situation?

We’re all human, and there are any number of frustrating situations where you can extend a helping hand.

Of course, sometimes it is not appropriate – in cases where it’s far better to allow the individual to struggle, and be “challenged” so that he/she can grow from experience. *You’ll have to judge when it’s appropriate, and when it’s not.

In being a good leader, you need to uncover what makes a person passionate.  When you discover people’s passions and potential, you’ll be better able to see where they want to go in Life – i.e., what their goals are.

As a good leader, it’s worthwhile to take the time to get to know the person.  Be patient in order to discover their attributes, and their “weak spots”.  A person may say to you, “I want to be a doctor.”  Yet this person may not have truly thought things through.

Perhaps the individual says he wants to be a surgeon, yet can’t stand the sight of blood. Or maybe he does not possess good people skills (bedside manner).  It is up to you, then, to make observations & provide feedback – to help this person realize who he truly is – i.e., his strengths & weaknesses.

How They Need To Grow:  People Need To Grow Into Their Goals

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You need to remember that people have to grow into their goals.  It takes a bit of time, but with the proper training (& you as their patient leader)  they’ll reach their end goal. Provide a way for them to reach the goal, via small steps – 1 step at a time.

Lay out a plan – help them reach small,attainable goals each week – in this way, they will gain confidence.  When they see what’s been achieved each week, they’ll be encouraged and will “gain momentum” to keep on going!

Assessing Your Employee’s Personality – Determine The Person’s Passions

1. What Do They Cry About?
2. What Do They Sing About?
3. What Do They Dream About?

As explained in the book, “Becoming A Person of Influence” by John Maxwell, it is necessary to look at these 3 things.  With the first one, “What Do They Cry About”, you are assessing what touches the person’s heart. For when you know what the person you’re mentoring cares about, you’ll know in what direction (goals) he or she should head.

In respect to #2,  What Do They Sing About, Frank Fletcher observed, “No man can deliver the goods if his heart is heavier than his load.” *There is a difference between the things which touch people’s hearts & the things that weight them down.

Over the long haul, people ought to focus on what gives them the most joy.  They’ll be more productive that way, and they’ll be happier.

Thirdly, as to  What Do People Dream About — this is an important one.  Napolean Hill once said, “Cherish your visions, and your dreams, as if they are children.” Therefore, if you can help people discover their dreams, and are willing to show you believe in them, you can aid these persons in fulfilling their destinies – to become who they were meant to be. – Ideas Taken from Becoming a Person of Influence

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In John Maxwell’s book “Becoming A Person of Influence“, he speaks about how a leader helps a person tap into their passion – even if a quiet person, he/she nevertheless has passion. Dig deep.

“Some men have thousands of reasons why they cannot do what they want to, when all they need is one reason why they can.” – Willis Whitney, Scientist

Here are 5 Suggestions to Help a Person Find Passion:

1. Take a Look at Yourself – Do Some Self Examination – if you don’t know how to begin, here’s an excellent read:  Finding Your North Star
2. Brainstorm Ideas –> For Best Results, Get a Pen and Paper & Just Let it Flow. You don’t want to censor yourself; you want to understand yourself
3. Take Action - A Most Important Step
4. Do Not Be Afraid of Failing – This, after all, is how you learn (Duh!) **Note:  It May Help You to Talk to a Friend Who Likely Has Some Experience in failing
5. Decide on a Particular Area to Concentrate on, and focus like hell!

(Be Sure to Surround Yourself Only with Positive Influences, and Do Not Listen to That Negative Inner Voice in your Head)

I was very overprotected as a youth, and was not given much chance to make mistakes and then learn from them.  So I can speak from actual experience that it is not the way to go, for most people.  Brainstorm ideas & think long & hard about just how much you can gain – true learning, and inner strength will be gained in most cases (for most people).  Again I suggest you find a good resource, sit down (in a quiet place where you’ll be undisturbed) and read the book and examine yourself & take down notes.  Have a sheet of paper with 2 columns on it – 1 column for your weaknesses and the other column for your strong points.

Next, start to go through the chapters of “Finding Your Own North Star”

Find Your Inner Compass!

(or similar readings) and take time for self-examination after each & every chapter.

For Future Reference:

Group Brainstorming

Reverse Brainstorming

The Stepladder Technique

Understanding Yourself:  Understand Others By Understanding Yourself (an Amazon book)

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8 Free Online Tools and Resources for Effective Leadership

What do John Maxwell and other highly effective leaders have in common?

• They inspire and motivate others
• Maintain strong eye contact when listening
• Upon listening, provide feedback and ask questions
• Paraphrase to ensure no misunderstandings  occur
• Are not overly harsh with criticism (leaders empathize)
• Are to the point and provide helpful suggestions

They have a laser focus and do not become distracted while listening.  In fact, a good listener (like John C. Maxwell) is truly focused in and is actively looking for similarities between himself and the other person.

In this way, a bond is formed.  Now, the listener is far less likely to misunderstand, and the speaker is placed at ease.   This is key.

Good leaders (effective leaders) know the importance of effective communication.  Learn more of John Maxwell and effective leadership:

Here are 8 Free Resources on John Maxwell and effective leadership -

1. A Blog devoted to John Maxwell and his teachings.  A Resource Chock full of tips and helpful hints on Executing Effective Leadership
2. Article by John Maxwell -  This article was quite interesting to me, as it’s about an actor whom I’ve admired a number of years:  Samuel L. Jackson.  It’s about his journey, his initial descent into cocaine addiction (due to feeling discouraged) and his recovery (via rehab & family support).   Shows no one is immune - and John’s article touches on how we can influence others who are downtrodden and encourage them to great heights.
3. A Slideshow on Being an Effective Leader – Concise and to the point, this is a visual medium that I enjoyed.  If you are visual, you might enjoy this
4. Another good lens on John Maxwell – This one is very VISUAL and is ranked #379  in the Books category of Squidoo.  It is rendered by a  member of the Giant Squid 100 Club, which means it is likely a high quality lens.
5. Lens on John Maxwell -  True story of a 19 year old who was helped and inspired by John Maxwell.  He runs a non-profit and (due to Mr. Maxwell’s message) he was able to feed a lot of families at Thanksgiving .   Read the list of his favorite John Maxwell books.
6. Video starring John Maxwell:  This video details “leading up” – i.e., influencing those above you (not just those below).  Breathtaking motivational speaker who speaks from a historical perspective – so you can get a perspective on the topic of leadership (where we are now, compared to where we were in the 1980′s and 1990′s)
7. Second video with John Maxwell – Ennumerates on what is the best reason to want to become a leader.  Great leaders are first listeners and learners, then leaders, he explains. Very good quality audio/video –> If you learn best visually, view this one!
8. Third excellent, in depth video on The Law of Intuition :  When I say “in depth”, I mean there is a breadth and a depth to this video.  Herein, the law of intuition is explored.  Developing your natural intuitiveness will give you a great advantage,  as a leader.

In this post, we’ll discuss the fifth of John Maxwell’s tenets, “A Person of Influence Understands People”.

Well, in his book, “Becoming a Person of Influence“, there is a passage which states, “if you can’t work with people and understand them, you cannot accomplish anything. And you certainly can’t  become a person of influence.”

Let me examine this for a moment.   Is this true?

When I recall working in a home care environment (working with and for residents who were physically challenged),  what do I remember about that time?

Truthfully, I can recall that it was necessary (at times) to take a step back to reflect on what had just been  said to me.   If I didn’t do this, misperceptions would occur.

This would then develop into Read the rest of this entry

Today’s post concerns the fourth of

John Maxwell’s Ten Leadership Keys:

listening skills. Developing listening skills is a worthwhile goal – especially if you are intent on becoming an effective leader. I pose the question, “Can being a good listener help build loyalty?” Read the rest of this entry

In this blog post, we’ll discuss the third of John Maxwell’s ten leadership keys, which is faith in people.

Did you know that:

1. Most people don’t have faith in themselves
2. Most people don’t have someone who has faith in them
3. Most people will do anything to live up to your faith in them

These are powerful, thought provoking statements.  If you will lead by example, you can have an impact on others’ lives.   How exciting is that?! It boils down to this: Read the rest of this entry

John C Maxwell:  Developing the Leader Within You

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It is important to set your goals for self development

Why is this? When you begin the process, you will start to realize some of what your dreams and aspirations are, and through this process of self analysis and goal setting, you’ll see that it is indeed possible to improve yourself and become a better you.

You will appreciate yourself more once you’ve begun to do the work.  I can tell you, from experience, that Read the rest of this entry

Leadership:  John Maxwell

“The Meaning of Mentoring” by John C. Maxwell and Jim Dornan

(This is an excerpt from John C. Maxwell’s book, “Becoming a Person of Influence”)

“Giving people the motivation to grow without also providing them the means of doing it is a tragedy. But the mentoring process offers people the opportunity to turn their potential into reality, their dreams into destiny. Mentors impact eternity because there is no telling where their influence will stop.

Nineteenth-century British statesman William Gladstone asserted, “He is a wise man who wastes no energy on pursuits for which he is not fitted; and he is wiser still who from among the things he can do well, chooses and resolutely follows the best.” Most people don’t have a natural knack for spotting their greatest areas of potential. They need help doing it, especially as they begin growing and striving to reach their potential. And that’s why it’s important Read the rest of this entry

Board Coaching and Executive Coaching are both closely linked, but this article will focus on Executive Coaching specifically and how it can be useful effectively in the work place. Executive Coaching can be explained as growing leaders through the coach approach to Leadership. Personal goal setting (both career long term goals and short term career goals) and short term business goals are significant in this discussion. It will be helpful to use a goal setting template. Read more

Your eyes are the mirrors of your soul and when you are self confident you are a leader among men. Leadership is a skill you can or will acquire and it is a key quality of becoming a very confident individual. Have belief in you, your family, and in life and you will truly develop self wealth. You’ll be amazed by what you can achieve when you are really positive about yourself. You will be able to acquire leadership development skills. Read more

Your company communication skills should be complete and flawless. This is business and we are talking about investments. As one business entrepreneur, you should be able to develop ways and means in order to bridge the gap that exists between you and your staff.

Or, if you are simply administrative personnel who take charge of the incoming and outgoing communication based-elements, you should be at your best, so that you Read the rest of this entry

In reality, effective business communication is one of the most crucial things in life. To make progress on any front – whether it be professional or personal, intimate or casual, you must master this challenge. Why is it so noteworthy? It is because Read the rest of this entry

In this blog post, I’ll list the 10 leadership keys to Becoming a Person of Influence (or as John C. Maxwell terms it, “How to Positively Impact the Lives of Others”).  Today I shall speak to integrity, which is the first of ten leadership keys.

In future posts, there will be an ongoing discussion.  All ten leadership traits to be covered. Read the rest of this entry

IMPORTANT>  Factors in Mentoring Objectives & Goals:

In this blog post, we’ll discuss the second of John Maxwell’s ten leadership keys, which is nurturing others.  This should be incorporated Read the rest of this entry

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Creative Thinking:  Unlock the Key

1. Don’t Make Assumptions. You really should not make assumptions. It is beneath you, and is rather undignified. Have respect for others; wait to gather all necessary information prior to making a judgment; then and only then, you’ll come to the right conclusion.

One story is of a customer at a Bank of America who, upon cashing his check, is turning to go, but instead returns to the Teller & says,”Excuse me, I think there is an error.” The teller swiftly replies, “I am sorry but there’s nothing I can do. You ought to have counted it. Once you leave, it is out of my hands. We are no longer responsible.”

So then the customer goes: “Well, okay great. Thanks for the extra $20.” Lesson To Be Learned: If you are tempted to jump the gun (& assume things) you ought to re-think things. Simply waiting til you have all the facts could keep you from losing money, or making some other costly error.

2. See Things From Other Points Of View. Do you have an open mind? It  can be very important to see THINGS from another Perspective.  It opens up the Right side of your brain, for one thing.  For another thing, it can help you be a good Leader by “empathising” with another person who is under you.  Have you thought about this much?  You may want to learn about being an empathetic Leader here AND here.

(Then, you’ll learn to consider others’ points of view)

3. Avoid Yo-Yo Thinking. People are people.  As such, they tend to swing from a highly positive mood one Minute to a highly negative one the following moment; and all this simply because they cannot “see the forest for the trees”.  They just see what is directly in front of them.  It’s far healthier to remain neutral and to never allow your emotions to get the best of you.  Tip: Bear in mind that things are rarely as good or as bad as you imagine they are.

4. Get Rid Of Lazy Thinking Habits. Remaining in the “same old pattern” of thinking can not only hinder your ability to brainstorm or analyze things – it truly can become a  stumbling block to being able to think clearly and deduce things. How about trying this as an alternative?  Ask a friend or coworker to pronounce the following:  MacGillicutty, MacDuff and MacPherson.  Next, have the person place the term “Machinery” after these 3 words and see what happens. Most people are likely to mis-pronounce it. This is due to the fact we (as humans) tend to think in patterns and so we don’t like what doesn’t fit.

Tip: Don’t ever assume that, just because things happened in a certain way one time, that it will RESULT the Same Way the following time!

5. Try to Grow a Fresh Perspective – Think Like A Child.

Research shows that the number of synapses, or connections, in the brain is
greater in a child than it is in an adult.  Why is this? Because a child, or young toddler, has no limiting world view, as adults we do. It’s like a sculptor who starts off with a large block of clay, more than he needs, and then gradually removes the clay as he moulds his sculpture.  So if we utilize our brain to think like a child, this is better.  We can “open up” and accept everything without judgment, thus reversing the brain aging process a bit.

Tip: Don’t worry about the myth of age. With the right stimulus and a passion for learning, you can actually improve your brain’s powers.  Seek to unlock your inner guide

6. See The Detail As Well As The Big Picture. You should try to do this: see the BIG picture, & then take a step back and hone in on the detail of the situation, problem, picture, or task at hand.  This will aid you in keeping things in perspective, and in the proper context.

7. Think For Yourself. It is a shame that many organizations value high volume activity (read “results”) over taking time to do creative thinking and brainstorming.  Actually, many top organizations use “group brainstorming” in order to solve hard problems, come up with fresh ideas, or improve communications & morale among its employees.  In reality, it really can be wasteful (& short sighted) not to use the brains and creativity of your top personnel to come up with fresh ideas, or a creative angle on doing things. If employees are pressured to only think “a certain way”,   how can ANY new ideas ever rise to the surface?

Tip:  Don’t Let others determine your thinking for you, or KEEP you from contributing positively to a company or organization.

As these patterns become a natural part of your routine and you invoke these 7 techniques, you’ll be pleased with what a cinch it is to come up with fresh, innovative ideas & creative solutions to all of life’s problems.

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This post covers the sixth tenet in John Maxwell’s book - enlarging other people.

For many people, just because you want to enlarge others does not mean you are ready.  You might have to do some work on yourself first.  As Mr. Maxwell says in Becoming a Person of Influence, “..if you want to do more for others, you have to become more yourself.”

This is because while you can teach what you know to others, you can only reproduce what you are.  When you mentor others, you do 4 things for them:

1. Enlarging people
2. Helping them navigate through life’s problems
3. Connecting with them on a deeper level
4. Helping them reach their greatest potential

It is important to help people see what their weak points and strong points are, of course, so you can help them grow.   When you assist someone in enlarging themselves, you benefit them by enabling them to step up to a new level of living.  And that’s really accomplishing something. I know that here in North Dakota I see many people who will not “grow themselves” and yet they sit on the bar stool complaining about their lives.  (Geesh)

As Denis Waitley said, “The greatest achievements are those which benefit others.”   It is quite rewarding in and of itself.  You should try it!

Seize the opportunity.

When you enlarge somebody, you do this for them:

• Increase Their Chances for Success (i.e. when you broaden their horizon, they begin to see things in a new way.  They increase their skills, improve their attitudes, learn new ways to do things etc.
• Increase Their Potential for Growth – It will have more than just a slight effect.  That is, when you equip these people for success by enlarging them, they become better able to seize on an opportunity or fully utilize a resource or tool you provide to them
• Are Permanently Altered for the Future – When you have an impact on someone’s life, their are forever impacted.  Their horizons broaden.  As you help them develop their talents, their
  

  quality of life

  improves.

So in essence, your

leadership talents

(or abilities) have a direct impact on how much you’re able to influence other people.  That is why I say you may want to do some work on yourself first before you set about to lead and influence others.

Be a Patient Leader Yet not Too Patient:

You should choose very wisely the people you want to enlarge.  You don’t want to waste time on those you don’t genuinely believe in.  They probably ought to have a life philosophy similar to yours.  Also, you should start when the time is right; that is, the situation must be right.

If you start before the individual realizes he needs to grow, then it is a waste of your time & theirs.  Begin too late, and you’ve missed your best chance to help them.

John Maxwell’s Best Selling Becoming a Person of Influence

Realize some are eager to be enlarged, while others don’t care about personal growth.  It is your job to determine which is which.