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SELF ESTEEM DEVELOPMENT
from: ENTER AUTHOR NAMEWhen kids are first exposed to a group setting, like that of kindergarten or a playground where many other children are coexisting, it won’t be a surprise if they suddenly buckle down and turn shy. Oftentimes you, as a parent, will need to coerce the child to mingle. After all, what parent would want a child to develop into a social wallflower ?
A lot of parents encounter this problem of having to almost push their kids into a play group just so they would socialize. More often than not, this strategy ends not with a nod of agreement from the kid, but an afternoon of bawling.
If you’ve honed your child’s self esteem early on, socializing will not be a problem for him or her. In fact, if you’ve taught your kid not to be afraid of other kids and to believe that he or she can do many things and that taking risks are a part of life, seeing him mingle, speak for himself, and make his own decisions will be part of your child-rearing achievements.
Most kids are hesitant to go out into the world and prefer to hide under their parents guidance. However, as they get older, this kind of attitude is not something you should encourage. Your kid has to learn to be independent at some point. You are assured that your kid will be fine if you arm him or her with self esteem.
How is self esteem built in children? Here are some tips.
a. Encourage him or her to get out of his or her comfort zone.
A kid that’s overprotected all his life, that is, you’re always there to solve a problem or do things for him and make him stick strictly to a daily routine -- you can count on seeing him or her cower in the corner and cry whenever something out of the ordinary occurs. Give him or her variety. Expose your children to new ideas and challenging problems; allow him the freedom to explore life..
b. Understand that you can’t always protect your child.
The only way for kids to become proficient at dealing with life's ups and downs is to allow them to make mistakes. Allow him or her to fall. While we don’t wish hurt or disappointment on our kids, failure is often necessary to learn how to cope. A significant part of self-esteem development is taking risks and making mistakes. Foibles are a natural occurrence. A very normal part of life. No matter how hard you may strive to shield them, children will inevitably face the mat at some point in their lives.
c. Leave him to his element.
Don’t determine what is right for your child. Don't inflict your sense or right or wrong, choice of career, etcetera upon your child. For he was not born to fulfill your dreams or wishes -- those goals you were unable to reach. Let him be an individual. Allow him to evolve into the person he is meant to be, with you just remaining on the sidelines to guide him along the way. Accept that your child has his own identity. Let him flourish at his own pace and in his own time.
The aforementioned are but a few of the things that you can do to increase your child’s self esteem. You must first have faith in your child’s ability to think for himself before you can convince him or her that he or she can do it. To what extent your child's self esteem can grow will depend on your encouragement.
Parenting is a hard job -- yet can be very rewarding. You must do your best to restrain yourself at times, thus allowing your offspring to stretch and grow. There is no single and clear-cut way to success. Nonetheless, you will already feel as though you have succeeded if your child is confident enough to face the world.
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